De-Cluttering: An Example of Making Good Choices

Please excuse my absence for the past several days.

My uncle, who is like a second father to me, and a grandfather to my boys, was hospitalized on July 5th with some serious complications.  While I won’t go into details, I will tell you that he was close to death’s door a couple of time.

He’s had a feeding tube inserted in his stomach.  And two days later, he had his entire colon removed.  It’s a surgical process called an Ileostomy.  You can read all about it here, if you want the medical details.  Be warned:  it’s not for the very faint of heart.


Photo: Patty Lagera (Creative Commons) on Flickr®

Life is Crazy!

I’ve spent a great deal of time at the hospital, trying to bring some comfort to my aunt and her immediate family.  It’s been quite the rollercoaster ride.  Let me tell you!

I’m happy to report that he is doing much better as of this writing.  He is out of the intensive care unit and on a post-operative floor of the hospital.  Your continued positive thoughts and prayer are very much appreciated.  J

On a more personal note, I’m here to tell you that, in addition to this blog, I’ve just launched another blog site.  (I swear:  it’s the Attention Deficit Disorder coming through again!).  I am going to REALLY try to keep both sites current with posts.  Both subjects are near and dear to my heart and I want to give them the attention they deserve.

To Everything There is a Season

The new blog is “My Clutter-Free Life”.  It’s been along time coming.  And with the visits to the hospital and going through such tough times, I began to think?  What is really important to me?  What’s important to my wife and kids?  Is it all the ‘stuff’ that we have lying around the house?  Or is it the time and connections and memories that family members share?

Stuff Be Damned!

I am at a point in my life where the stuff is no longer important.  Sure, there are things that have great meaning and I’m not going to part with them.  But…there is a great deal of ‘stuff’ that I’ve accumulated that simply needs to go.  It is beginning to smother my creativity.  (And it’s driving my wife nuts, too!).

What is all this stuff, you ask?  It’s a variety of things, actually.  It’s books and papers and kitchen gadgets and craft supplies and tools and DVDs and collectibles (that I swore I was going to sell on eBay).  It has simply taken over the house.  No, I’m not the hoarders you’ve read about or seen on television.  It’s not even close to that extreme.  But still.  It’s too much. WAY too much.

De-Cluttering is a good example of Making Good Choices

We all need to reflect on what is most important in our life, right?  And for me, at this very point in time, it’s NOT the stuff.  It’s the relationships.  The wife.  The kids.  Making a difference.  Creating a legacy.

Unfortunately, all the junk that I’ve dragged home is beginning to crown out the important things.  And I cannot allow that to happen.

It’s Time for Change

I invite you to check out the new site.  It’s in the very beginning stages, so don’t expect too much.  As with this site, I will sure appreciate your feedback and comments on the new site.

Your turn:  what has your attention these days?  Would it be a good idea to reflect on that and make some changes so you’re focused on the important things?  Feel free to leave a comment here.


About the Author

Michael Hawkins

I am a husband, father, writer, and blogger. I am passionate about helping people make good choices.

  • Lisa R

    Hey, sorry to hear about your uncle. Unfortunately, I know all about ileostomies without clicking your link as my husband had to have one at the age of 34. It will be 15 years since his surgery this coming December. I would be happy to answer any questions about caregiving or being a support person. Praying for you and your family.

    • Michael Hawkins

      Lisa – Wow! It’s a small world, isn’t it? I will certainly be in touch if we have any questions. My aunt is a bit overwhelmed by all of this. She and my uncle have been through an awful lot during the past seven months.

      I appreciate your prayers and will pass them along to my uncle and his family.

      God bless!

      • Lisa R

        Michael, I can understand being overwhelmed. My husband was very ill in the months leading to his surgery, and in fact, almost died during the operation. Almost becoming a widow at the age of 31 really made me concentrate on what was important.

        • Michael Hawkins

          That is scary. Sometimes it takes major events like that to shake us up and get us on the right path. I hear you!